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MY SELF CARE ROUTINE | 11 Self Care Ideas to De-Stress!

This time of uncertainty has led a few of us to really take the time to reflect and understand our inner selves. I took this opportunity to discover myself a little bit more and learn a few things that I didn’t know of. Self-care was a foreign thing to me before, I didn’t think about it that much but now that I understand how important it is, I’m never taking it for granted again.

So here’s my self care routine to keep myself on top of things:

💗 Meditate. I started meditating about a month ago and it changed my life for the better. Not even kidding. First thing in the morning after I wake up and wash my face, I would take my time to meditate for 10-20 mins. I also do this whenever I’m feeling anxious, stressed or overwhelmed with what’s happening around me. It’s good to give your mind and body ten to twenty minutes of mindful attention.

💗 Reading books. It’s crazy how I’m adding this here because as I’ve mentioned before it took me a while to get out of my long and overdue reading slump. Thankfully, I was able to read with intention again. Reading has always been my go-to stress reliever.

💗 Taking breaks from social media. It feels good to unplug from all the noise once in a while. Last month, I deleted my Facebook app and it didn’t bother me anymore. Try to free yourself from the never-ending scrolling through your feed/s and the constant bings of your notifications. Don’t forget to delete/mute negative people. Just to add an advice about how you can handle your online presence and what’s been happening around the world, we have to be more aware about what we are sharing online. Learn and don’t be afraid to be educated. Also I promised myself less screen time and not use my phone for more than 3-4 hours daily.

💗 Decluttering my space. Ahh the magic of tidying up and putting things back to where it belongs. Such simple mindless tasks can really help you declutter your thoughts as well. As someone who has a ton of stuff lying around my room, I can’t barely make any more space to put my things. So one day I decided to organize and throw away the things that doesn’t bring me spark joy. I threw away those things which I was trying to hold on to but no longer serves me purpose. Now, I can say that my space is tidy and I don’t have to try to just put things all around my room. Also making your bed in the morning can make a big difference in your day to day life. Small things do add up. Keep in mind that less is more.

💗 Learning new things. May it be enrolling in online classes, spending my time on Skillshare or watching documentaries, learning has never been boring to me. In fact, it’s how I spend my time whenever I have nothing to do. I just watch a few documentaries about history and everything that I’m interested in. I’ll share with you soon where I go to whenever I want to learn and watch videos.

💗 Therapy. I tried getting therapy for a month, it was recommended to me by a friend on twitter and I am thankful to her. It has indeed made a huge impact on my thoughts and how I acknowledge what I’m going through. Therapy might be expensive but if you have the chance to get started, please do. It will help you somehow especially when you’re going through personal things that you can’t share with anyone. When you can’t seem to phantom your emotions, these professionals will help you understand and guide you through the process of healing.

💗 Get moving (exercise). A 10-minute workout session can do great things to your body. I do this every night or day, depends on my mood but I make sure to get moving as much as possible. Exercising can help you lift your mood and make your body feel more lighter. Unlike, if you’re just sleeping all day not doing anything your body feels heavy and you feel like your energy has been drained.

💗 Journal (writing down all your feelings). At the end of the day, I make sure to write all my thoughts and feelings down. Whenever I’m feeling sad or angry it helps me calm down. The art of journaling is therapeutic for me.

💗 Having my (favorite) cup of green tea. Just a thought of adding this in my list because I do love green tea and I make it to a point to drink it every morning and night before going to bed. I think it helped me with my period cramps(?).

💗 Eat healthy food options. No, I’m not saying go on a diet. I tried eating less sugar and more balanced meals in the past month. I saw good results in the way I feel about my body and I feel more energized.

💗 Lastly, be present. Pay complete attention to what’s happening now than worrying about what happened or what’s going to happen. Free your thoughts with unnecessary worry or doubt. Live in the present moment and don’t take for granted every second of it.

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WHAT I’M CURRENTLY READING…

Ever since the grief of this current pandemic crept into my system, I needed to do something meaningful and spend more time on one of the things that made me happy. Reading. It felt strange at first since it’s been years that I have properly read a book with intention. The intention to read and enjoy what I’m doing.

Though it may surprise you (or not) that I have a few on my reading list, books under different genre. You can clearly say that I am a mood reader or just a moody person to be honest.

Let me show you what I’m currently reading.


Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed by Lori Gottlieb

It’s my first time reading a memoir (I think). As someone who advocates about mental health and getting therapy, this book immediately grabbed my attention. It was my first time hearing about it but I remembered watching one of Jay Shetty’s videos on Youtube, Therapist Shares Why You’re Attracted To People Who Are Wrong For You which the author was a guest on. I admired how well-spoken and vibrant she was. I recommend you to watch it, you might learn a lesson or two. I haven’t delve much into the book but I’m planning to finish it by the end of the month. Fingers-crossed so I can share with you my thoughts. I haven’t done one of this in a WHILE.


The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle

I’ve been focused on getting my life together since the start of the new decade. So I decided to explore the world of YT and watch videos on how to get stuff done. I’ve watch a lot and came across Aileen’s channel (Lavendaire) & Rowena Tsai. They couldn’t stop recommending this book enough, since I was easily persuaded by them, I gave in. One of them said something about, “You are not your thoughts…” that hit me hard.

“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have. Make the NOW the primary focus of your life.”

Eckhart Tolle

Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert

Being someone who continuously seeks purpose, this book is currently giving me sensible insights on the path of creative living. I came about this book a long time ago but I didn’t have the urge to take the time to read it. I guess now is the right time since I’ve been working on finding the right self-help book/s which can definitely help me build my self-care habits. Also adding a deeper understanding towards living beyond fear, embracing my curiosity and welcoming every aspect of change in my life.

I am enjoying reading a few chapters of this book each night, taking it in day by day and somehow applying those ideas in my daily routine.


Dark and Deepest Red by Anna-Marie McLemore

I was deeply intrigued by the premise of this book, knowing that it touches the story of the “Dancing Plague” that occurred in Strasbourg (now modern-day France) and a retelling of Hans Christian Andersen’s The Red Shoes. Seeing the cover made me want to read the book more, not to exactly judge the book by its cover but LOOK AT IT! Planning to dive into the story more by next week. Can’t wait to see how this one goes.


The Mysterious Mr. Quin by Agatha Christie

Some of you may know that I recently finished reading “And Then There Were None”, I immediately wanted to read another book by this amazing queen. As a lover of mystery and crime, Ms. Agatha just served her truth right in my face. So I’ve decided to read “The Mysterious Mr. Quin” as I’ve heard it has a bit of paranormal tone in it. Haven’t had the time to fully indulge this novel since I’m finishing the next book on my list today. I need my full attention and focus while reading this book because I don’t want to miss any of the storyline.

“Thought is yours only. Nobody can alter or influence the use you mean to make of it.”

Agatha Christie, The Mysterious Mr. Quin

Norse Mythology by Neil Gaiman

Ancient mythology will forever hold my curiosity. I’m trying to start to learn and branch out from the primary Greek mythologies that I know of. Learned a few about Egyptian mythology and now the Norse Mythology. I believe I am quite aware of some of it but not entirely understanding the whole story behind them. Currently listening to it in audio book and dare I say that the author has a remarkable voice the fits very well as he tells the mythologies one chapter at a time. Creating a vivid image inside my head that made me enjoy the stories a lot more. Claiming this book as one of my favorites this year though I have yet to finish it but there’s 3 chapters left so I better do this post quickly.


There you have it, a list of all the books that’s on my Currently Reading page on Goodreads. Let me know what are you currently reading and what are your thoughts about it so far.

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THE ART OF PRACTICING SELF-CARE & WHY IT’S IMPORTANT

Self-care, is not selfish.

Let’s stop this mindset.

In a world where everyone seems to be chasing time, uncontrollably using the word “busy” and doesn’t have the time to take a break from all the chaos, practicing self-care can be daunting. Living day by day in a fast forward pace, it feels like pausing for a moment is a difficult thing to do.

Self-care is essential, it’s taking a time-out from everything and start focusing on your well-being. It’s taking care of yourself by habitually doing things that will fuel your mind, body and soul. By acknowledging that this whole idea of self-care is what you deserve as a human being, it’s a clear declaration that you are responsible for yourself and that you are claiming your life for the better.

Why is self-care important?

Imagine ending your day at work in a bad mood or getting upset by a friend, what do you often do to make yourself feel better? Binge-watch your favorite Netflix show? Start scrolling through social media mindlessly? It may seem a good practice for you but some of the things that you’re doing might be a trigger and can cause you to slowly drain your energy. You should make sure that you’re creating your self-care habits to allow yourself to live a life mindfully and stop building a life you want to escape from.

Sometimes we take ourselves for granted. We let other people’s needs to be our first priority. I’m currently taking an online course about “A Life of Happiness and Fulfillment”, which talked about devaluing our happiness as one of the major sins why we are unhappy. We sacrifice our happiness for other goals because we believe that choosing our own happiness is selfish. The truth is that we create our own happiness. So choosing and prioritizing yourself is not overlooking at other people’s concerns but taking note that you have to take care of yourself first before anybody else.

We all have different ideas of self-care but it is more than the luxurious things; your regular spa day, a good bubble bath, face masks, and so on. It can be the smallest act you can do like taking deep breaths, enjoying your morning walk, and listening to your favorite songs but it can greatly affect your entire mood leaving you on a positive note. It is not an easy thing to do if you’re not used to taking care of yourself, it’s like finding your voice amidst the noise. Learn to acknowledge your deepest and personal needs. When you are aware of what your body and mind needs, you can easily plan out what type of practices you can do to make your day more meaningful.

At the end of it all, it’s important to close all the tabs that’s currently open in your head. Reset each and every day, start with a clean slate and take on the new day with an open mind.

Always remember that it’s okay to take care of yourself and make time for the things that matter to you.

Self-care is an on-going process, a lifetime. Be intentional with everything that you do.


I have considered May as the month where I’m going to share with you all about the art of self-care and some tips & tricks to get you started. So stay tuned to my upcoming posts!

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LOVE NOTE #2: “I AM ENOUGH BECAUSE I SAID SO, AND THAT’S NOT UP FOR DEBATE.”

Enough is sufficient; all that is required, needed, or appropriate

It baffles me that the words, “I AM ENOUGH”, can be so hard to say and embody. We live in a world were everyone craves for three things; attention, validation and perfection. Everyone wants to be seen as something untouchable to the point where authenticity is not valid anymore. Everyone wants to feel validated by being liked by the people around them, where we need the approval of others. It creates this false perception of self-esteem, as you only started accepting yourself when other people did. We have fallen victims of our own selves most of the time. We made choices just because we thought that it will make our friends happy or it’s what our family wanted. But what about you, did you ask yourself what would make you happy? Do you like yourself when nobody else is looking? We often times do things for other people just because we feel like it’s our responsibility. Then again, it’s not. You have to learn how to say no and say yes to your own needs.

How many times have you disliked yourself just because of how other people looked at you? You fear rejection so much that you invalidate your own emotions. The fear of not being liked by people made you crawl up in a corner and stopped yourself from speaking up when you needed to. You hinder yourself from showing your full potential because you’re afraid of being too much. You’re afraid of taking up space but we live in a world where everyone has a place. Take as much space as you can, let yourself be free of uncertain baggage that random people let you carry. Forget about your past as you cannot do anything about it. Focus on your present self, learn to accept your mistakes and failures. Enjoy your time of solitude. The time you spend with yourself is never time wasted. Leave your frustrations and hesitations behind. Pick up yourself piece by piece and slowly build your best version in your own pace. Don’t rush things, if it didn’t happen today, let tomorrow’s uncertainty excite you and give you the motivation to never lose hope.

Be yourself.

Being oneself is never a crime. Never let someone’s opinion be your end all. “They” don’t matter, what they say about you is just their perspective of their idea of you.

“Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind”

Dr. Seuss

You will never please everyone. So please stop trying to please everyone, you’re only going to hurt yourself. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone. You need to prove to yourself that you’re capable of loving and forgiving yourself (once more). Choose yourself, I know it hurts right now but no matter what happens you will always have yourself.

You are enough.

This shouldn’t come from anyone else but you. “I AM ENOUGH“, someday, maybe not now. You will finally learn how to say it, (again).

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THINGS THAT MAKE ME HAPPY

In times where the pursuit of happiness can be futile, even the smallest things can make a huge impact to change someone’s behavior. The simplest gesture can alter someone’s mood.

As we live our everyday lives, trying to navigate our chaotic surroundings, we can’t help but be grateful for all the things that made/make us happy. It doesn’t have to be something materialistic but rather the random act of doing or the intention to spread a little joy and kindness is what we appreciate.

Waking up everyday, every day is a blessing.

Hearing the sound of rain/raindrops, how I miss the sound of it. It’s actually set as my sleep sound whenever I’m using my meditation app at night time.

♡Deep conversations and genuine connection, I think it goes hand in hand. You cannot delve into something deep without considering the connection you (will) have with someone.

Journaling, being able to pour my heart out at night/day is what I crave for every single day.

Learning something new, I’m always a curious cat but it’ll never kill me.

Pretty sky formations/color, forever a sucker for pretty skies. Imagine ending a day with a beautiful masterpiece, by the sky.

Being able to make my own decisions, it’s your first step from making the decision that can change your life.

Finding inspiration from others & inspiring them, it’s a cycle which I am grateful for.

Getting a good night sleep, and waking up in the morning not feeling tired and exhausted. A RELIEF!

♡Friday mornings, or even waking up early in the morning and you realize it’s a weekend.

My alone time, my solitude. I look forward whenever I have time alone with myself. I can further evaluate my current situation and better understand my emotions.

♡ Getting a package, whether its a surprise or not. Receiving a package makes me giddy.

Reading a good book, its a miracle for me nowadays to really enjoy a book. But I thank audiobooks that saved me from my reading slump.

What about you, what are the things that make you happy? Leave a comment below and let’s talk!

A little artwork made by yours truly.

LOVE NOTE #1: IT ALL BOILS DOWN TO “YOU”

It’s crazy how things can change so fast, we’re scared, aren’t we all? But have you thought of accepting the process of change and just let it be. There are things in life which we cannot control; a loss of a loved one, time that we wasted on certain things or people, their judgment towards you, that job you’ve always wanted but you didn’t get, the list goes on and on. All of it happens for a reason, as cliche as it may sound. Things happen to us in order for us to understand, learn and reflect.

Have you ever thought of slowing it down a bit? You’re moving too fast, like how the clock ticks at night. try to slow down and look around you. Try to revisit those little things that once sparked joy in your heart. Sit down and close your eyes. Listen to what’s happening around you but most importantly listen to what’s happening inside of you. Often times, we forget to check on ourselves. We forget the most important person in our lives because life, happened. I can’t blame you, we were molded to be like that, to think like that but you have the capacity to change it. Your life is your own, you make the decisions and you act on them. Don’t let the chaos of the uncertainty scare you and leave you stagnant. Move, move forward. I know you’re afraid but little by little you will get there. The road might be blurry now but don’t ever forget there’s always a way to whatever you’re looking for. Nothing worthy can be gained in an easy journey, we need to take detours and rough patches. That’s how we grow and see the world from a wider perspective.

I bet you’re not sure on where you’re heading but you’re still moving forward and I’m proud of you. If you’re stuck right now that’s okay, take it in, give it time and try to understand what you’re feeling. Ask yourself why you started. Remind yourself that you are worthy of anything kind. Be gentle to yourself. We are all fighting different battles, chose your own battle as you cannot fight all battles. As much as we want to gain more in life sometimes things turn around and life gets more from us. Less is more. We forget how much we have because we’re too blinded by the unwarranted expectations of everyone around us. Having less and appreciating more of what you have is a first step we’re too weary to take. It may be a simple task to some but a huge leap to others.

We often stay in our box not because we’re told to stay but there’s a sense of familiarity that keeps us from leaving. It brings us comfort but sometimes when that familiarity gets taken away from us we become lost. Isolate ourselves from everyone and deprive ourselves to go out from it. I want you to give yourself a chance to step out and see the world beyond it. See how oftentimes uncertainty is better than familiarity. Build yourself a place where “you” are the foundation of “YOU”.

I solemnly wish that tonight you will remember your worth once more. No matter what they say or do, you’ll always keep your value.

BLOG 2.0: WITH LOVE, NICKA

A space created to inspire and empower its readers through the power of words.

A place where you can find comfort and freedom to express and understand your emotions.

In this blog, I will share with you all my personal thoughts and experiences about everything under the sun. All the things I love to talk about; history, books, podcasts and everything where we can all learn from.

I had to leave Wander with Nicka behind and ask myself, Why launch a new blog?

RESET + REFRESH

A new beginning and a fresh start for me as a blogger. I learned that I needed to start all over again in order for me to move forward and to be able to continue my purpose.

Together we’ll learn everything to answer the why’s of life and truly understand our inner self. Be able to help ourselves come to a place of knowing for what should we do in any given situation.

I’m grateful to get another chance to reach out and influence my readers once more.

To know more about the woman behind the blog, click here.

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